A little spice never hurt anyone. Even the strongest marriage can go through dull spots every so often. Couples are often left wondering how they can rekindle the sparks that once ignited their romance.
Wonder no more. A fresh, spicy marriage is just five tips away. Discover how to spice up your marriage by reading on.
1. Listen More
Listening to your spouse is so simple but much easier said than done. Listening is sexy.
You or your partner probably go off on at least one tangent a day. Do you (or they) listen?
You really should. Enthusiastic responses to your partner’s bids for attention are essential.
The proof’s in the pudding: Couples who divorced after six years “turned toward” their spouse’s bid only 33 percent of the time. On the other hand, couples who were still together after six years turned toward their partner’s bid 87 percent of the time.
2. Assume the Best
Assuming the worst about your spouse will kill any relationship. Assume the best.
They didn’t answer your text message? They forgot to pick up milk on the way home? It’s not the end of the world, and – assuming it’s not a pattern – they probably made an honest mistake.
Unhappy couples attribute mistakes to character flaws. Happy couples blame mistakes on circumstances.
3. Put the Phone Away
Phones are a modern hub of distraction and, yes, infidelity. The latter’s not a problem if you trust your spouse.
Still, phones can weaken your marriage with even the most trustworthy partner. Researchers found that the mere presence of a phone limited the development of closeness and trust. It also decreased the amount of understanding and empathy that individuals could feel for their partners.
Your children aren’t the only ones harmed by excessive screen time.
4. Never Stop Dating Your Partner
Following the tips above lays a firm foundation for a date night. Your spouse will be more likely to resume going on dates (or increase the number of them) if you do the above.
Date nights are even more important now in a post-COVID world of going out less than before. Hire that babysitter, make that restaurant reservation, and buy those movie tickets. A study found that couples with a monthly date night were 14 percent less likely to break up over the next decade than couples who rarely went out.
5. Make Love
Last but not least is sex. Schedule and have it (with your spouse). Working it into your calendar may not seem sexy, but busy parents have to be intentional about making whoopee.
A study showed that sex is the most important part of marital satisfaction. What’s more, practicing the advice above will turn each of you on. Find (frequent) times for sexytime.
The husband can prepare himself by ordering online.
How to Spice up Your Marriage
With the American marriage rate at a historic, all-time low, marriage can come across as a dying institution. It was once a rite of passage for adults. It is now popularly seen as a ball and chain for those stuck in one.
Done right, however, it’s a blessing. All you have to do is spice up your marriage. See what other blessings await you in the News section.