Sex is a natural and healthy part of life. In fact, it’s pretty darn awesome! But there’s a surprising amount of misinformation bouncing around. And these myths can create unnecessary anxieties, contribute to performance issues, and even create a disconnect between partners.
So, let’s debunk some of the most common sexual misconceptions and set the record straight for a more fulfilling sex life free from hear-say…
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Myth #1: Size Matters (Or Does It?):
The truth: While some people do indeed have preferences, research suggests that penis size plays a much ‘smaller’ role in female orgasm than societal expectations might lead you to believe…
The reality is that effective communication, clitoral stimulation, and a relaxed atmosphere are far more important for achieving orgasm.
So, good news if you’re a little on the smaller side, gents, because it all comes down to technique…As the saying goes: “It ain’t the size of the boat, it’s the motion in the ocean!”
Myth #2: You Can’t Get Pregnant if You Have Sex While Standing Up:
The truth: Nope! Not true at all! Sperm can swim incredibly well, and regardless of the sexual position, once ejaculation occurs, sperm can travel to the egg and potentially lead to pregnancy.
Always practise safe sex! Unless of course, a baby is indeed the outcome you’re after…
Myth #3: Oral Sex is Safe Sex:
The truth: While oral sex is generally far safer than unprotected intercourse in terms of pregnancy, it’s not entirely risk-free…
Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can be spread through oral sex, so be mindful of whose genitalia you let near your mouth – or indeed use a condom for added protection.
Myth #4: A High Libido Means You’re More “Sexual”:
The truth: Libido (sex drive) varies greatly from person to person, and it can be influenced by a variety of factors such as significant stress, hormones, and medication.
A healthy sex life isn’t defined by frequency, but by quality and mutual satisfaction.
The next couple may have sex all the time, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that either party is truly satisfied – or even happy.
Remember: “Comparison is the thief of joy”.
Myth #5: Women Are Naturally More “Frigid” Than Men:
The truth: There’s no inherent difference in sexual desire between men and women. Factors like body image, communication, and past sexual experiences can all impact a person’s level of sexual desire…
Ultimately, it all comes down to the individual. And regardless, you should always respect people’s boundaries.
Myth #6: Lubricant is Just for People Who Aren’t Aroused Enough:
The truth: Lubricant can be a fantastic tool, even for even the most well-lubricated individuals among us. It can enhance sensation, prevent friction, and make sex more enjoyable for both partners – especially when practising anal sex or using male sex toys.
Myth #7: The G-Spot is a Magic Button for Orgasms:
The truth: The G-spot is an area in the vaginal wall some women find particularly sensitive (or in the prostate if you’re a fella). However, not everyone has a G-spot, and it’s not the only pathway to orgasm.
Clitoral stimulation and overall arousal are far more crucial – but if you can find a way to explore and unearth these sacred “buttons”, they come highly recommended.
Myth #8: You Can “Will Yourself” to Orgasm:
The truth: While mental focus can play a role in sexual pleasure, trying too hard to orgasm can actually backfire!
Relaxation, open communication, and exploration are key to achieving orgasm – not putting undue pressure on yourself.
Just relax and focus on the NOW – not what comes next.
Myth #9: You Lose Your Sex Life After Having Kids:
The truth: Parenthood can definitely impact your sex life, but it doesn’t have to spell the end of intimacy for you and your partner. Prioritising communication, scheduling “us time” with your partner, and exploring new ways to connect can help you maintain a healthy and fulfilling sex life, even after becoming a parent.
The reality is, there are many successful parents out there who do indeed manage and make time for their sex life. It’s not easy, but it can be done!
Myth #10: There’s a “Normal” Frequency for Sex:
The truth: Just like libido, a “normal” sex frequency varies greatly from couple to couple. The most important thing is to find a frequency that works for both of you and leaves you feeling satisfied and connected.
Empowered by Knowledge for a Steamy Sex Life:
Now that we’ve debunked these common myths, you can approach your sex life with even greater confidence and more realistic expectations.
Remember, open communication with your partner, a willingness to explore new things, and utilising a variety of high-end pleasure tools can all contribute to a fulfilling and healthy sexual experience – regardless of what anyone else “thinks”.
